Niggling feeling

FashionWhore · 21st June 2004, 08:38 PM

Has anyone ever had that niggling feeling when youve been in a relationship awhile and you start to think "what if i was single?" "what am i missing being in a relationship?"

then these ideas start to build and niggle at the back of ur mind and taints everything about the relationship? until you break up and become single again because you know its for the best... then you realise u made a huge mistake and regret it?

cus i have. thankfully i fixed it though.

.star* · 21st June 2004, 08:51 PM

I know what ya mean. I think quite a lot of people have probably felt that before, I think it's *kinda* the same if you're just starting a new relationship as well as a long one. Like if you've been single for a while or whatever then all of a sudden - well past the sorta 'honeymoon' period- you're in a 'relationship' it all seems different. Like you're not just you, you're one of two + have to consider that other person. Bitty like a loss of independance or something and ya can be so impulsively selfish kinda thing (if that makes sense)

Haha how I rambled in that post. Nevermind me.

lee604 · 21st June 2004, 08:59 PM

yeah im at the start of a new relationship after a year of being single, and now people come on to me all the time and i dont know whether to split with the girl im with and go with the other or not. if i go with the other it makes it easier because she speaks english, but the one im with speaks no english and my italian is not quite as good as my english, obviously. so yeah niggling feeling, i hate that it makes me confused.

glittery_cath · 22nd June 2004, 01:06 AM

I don't have a huge amount of experience in this field, but generally in my experience when you start really wishing you're single, it means the relationship isn't really working anymore and you're better off alone. But then I have a nasty habbit of not listening to myself and pretending everything is ok.

Johnny · 22nd June 2004, 02:08 AM

I only ever had that feeling with my ex-girlfriend, then we broke up.
Then I met my current girlfriend, and that was about 2 and a half years ago.
We've only ever fallen out once, and argued a few times. But things still seem like that 'honeymoon' period even after all this time.

Flava_Fly · 22nd June 2004, 02:14 AM

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Originally Posted by foolish_izanagi

Has anyone ever had that niggling feeling when youve been in a relationship awhile and you start to think "what if i was single?" "what am i missing being in a relationship?"

then these ideas start to build and niggle at the back of ur mind and taints everything about the relationship? until you break up and become single again because you know its for the best... then you realise u made a huge mistake and regret it?

cus i have. thankfully i fixed it though.

I know too well exactily what u mean, and i felt like a compleat bastard for thinking such things, but i guess im not the only one. its like u kinda wanna be with someone alot, but at the same time u wanna screw around when it suits you or the oppertunity comes knockin! i recon as u get older and learn a little tho u realise that A.it doesnt work that way and B.mabey somethings not right with your current girl despite how much u try not to belive so. Only a lucky few get to have there cake and eat it :P

morven · 22nd June 2004, 08:35 AM

yip i had that
and then i dumped him
and then i was happy
and then i found someone 20 times better
and now im even happier.

the only thing i found is it wasnt that i actually wanted to be single it was more... wot am i getting out of this relationship? and i realsied not a hell of alot.

FashionWhore · 22nd June 2004, 01:40 PM

lol its just i found out im not the only one to hav the feeling so id tell everyone that its kinda normal.

it doesnt mean the relationship is over tho.

.star* · 22nd June 2004, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by foolish_izanagi

it doesnt mean the relationship is over tho.

It doesn't mean it's over, but I would say it means there's some sort of problem with it that needs to be fixed before the relationship is ruined.

Mean Girl · 22nd June 2004, 03:03 PM

i had that niggling feeling once, finished with the guy and i reckon it was the stupidest thing i have ever done!

Rainbow_brite · 22nd June 2004, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Flava_Fly

I know too well exactily what u mean, and i felt like a compleat bastard for thinking such things, but i guess im not the only one. its like u kinda wanna be with someone alot, but at the same time u wanna screw around when it suits you or the oppertunity comes knockin! i recon as u get older and learn a little tho u realise that A.it doesnt work that way and B.mabey somethings not right with your current girl despite how much u try not to belive so. Only a lucky few get to have there cake and eat it :P

get a fuck buddy

Monkey · 22nd June 2004, 07:12 PM

i used to have those niggly feelings like "do i really want to be in a relationship when i could be single and having fun?" so then i end up breaking up with the guy only to realise that i hate being single. then i met a guy and i was happy and didnt ever wanna be single again but he obviously had other plans and yeah.....thats over so im back to being single again.

Pink Lady · 22nd June 2004, 09:12 PM

i have had tht feeling sumtimes, but when i see the person, i realise its better 2 be not single!

Flava_Fly · 23rd June 2004, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Rainbow_brite

get a fuck buddy

U suggest that like i can just go and pick one up at the shops

They are an interesting concept tho i always thought it was something that girls werent really into, mabey im wrong tho!

DJisghetto · 23rd June 2004, 10:49 AM

I used to have this girlfriend. We went out for just over one year and seven months (i'm going to pretend i don't know the exact date. cause you'll think i'm poofy) anyway after about one month and five i started having the 'what if i was single?' inner moral debate. I'd had it before but never really paid attention. So I met this girl, she was about 10 times prettier than my girlfriend (She was actually out to meet bobsy, but his chat-up technique wasn't great that night) SO I got talking to her on msn and we met up another couple times with friends (she even came to see me rock, my girlfriend was there too. it was pretty funny.) So-one night me and my friend robbie were sitting bored on msn and she came on, so we decided to take a daunder up to her house. Except robbie's pal phoned him up so robbie decided to go off with him. So i went up to her house by myself. And we sat and chatted for a bit, then i was away to go home we started kissing on her doorstep. then the next night she came to see me rock at the balcony and we started getting off again. Next day i broke up with my girlfriend. Went out water-gunning with my pals. Then watched summerslam (elimination chamber main-event. triple h won after some ric flair interference. just so you know) then a couple of days i asked this new girl out and we've been going out ever since (7 months and 4 days...so what, i'm poofy) And i can honestly say i don't regret a thing.

So yeah, moral of this story: Don't be an asshole. Do what your heart says.

21st June 2004, 08:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
FashionWhore Banned Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Dundee Posts: 9,126	Niggling feeling Has anyone ever had that niggling feeling when youve been in a relationship awhile and you start to think "what if i was single?" "what am i missing being in a relationship?" then these ideas start to build and niggle at the back of ur mind and taints everything about the relationship? until you break up and become single again because you know its for the best... then you realise u made a huge mistake and regret it? cus i have. thankfully i fixed it though.

22nd June 2004, 07:12 PM	#12 (permalink)
Monkey Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dundee Posts: 214	i used to have those niggly feelings like "do i really want to be in a relationship when i could be single and having fun?" so then i end up breaking up with the guy only to realise that i hate being single. then i met a guy and i was happy and didnt ever wanna be single again but he obviously had other plans and yeah.....thats over so im back to being single again. Last edited by Monkey : 22nd June 2004 at 07:12 PM. Reason: bad spelling :S

21st June 2004, 08:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
.star* Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Dundee Posts: 2,186	I know what ya mean. I think quite a lot of people have probably felt that before, I think it's kinda the same if you're just starting a new relationship as well as a long one. Like if you've been single for a while or whatever then all of a sudden - well past the sorta 'honeymoon' period- you're in a 'relationship' it all seems different. Like you're not just you, you're one of two + have to consider that other person. Bitty like a loss of independance or something and ya can be so impulsively selfish kinda thing (if that makes sense) Haha how I rambled in that post. Nevermind me.

21st June 2004, 08:59 PM	#3 (permalink)
lee604 Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Location: italy Posts: 48	yeah im at the start of a new relationship after a year of being single, and now people come on to me all the time and i dont know whether to split with the girl im with and go with the other or not. if i go with the other it makes it easier because she speaks english, but the one im with speaks no english and my italian is not quite as good as my english, obviously. so yeah niggling feeling, i hate that it makes me confused.

22nd June 2004, 01:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
glittery_cath ~x_miss_caffacakes_x~ Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dundee/Surrey Posts: 674	I don't have a huge amount of experience in this field, but generally in my experience when you start really wishing you're single, it means the relationship isn't really working anymore and you're better off alone. But then I have a nasty habbit of not listening to myself and pretending everything is ok.

22nd June 2004, 02:08 AM	#5 (permalink)
Johnny is latin for sexy. Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Glenrothes Posts: 5,137 Band: Aces High	I only ever had that feeling with my ex-girlfriend, then we broke up. Then I met my current girlfriend, and that was about 2 and a half years ago. We've only ever fallen out once, and argued a few times. But things still seem like that 'honeymoon' period even after all this time.

22nd June 2004, 08:35 AM	#7 (permalink)
morven Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: dundee Posts: 2,639 Band: me and a banjo played by my donkey, phil.	yip i had that and then i dumped him and then i was happy and then i found someone 20 times better and now im even happier. the only thing i found is it wasnt that i actually wanted to be single it was more... wot am i getting out of this relationship? and i realsied not a hell of alot.

22nd June 2004, 01:40 PM	#8 (permalink)
FashionWhore Banned Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Dundee Posts: 9,126	lol its just i found out im not the only one to hav the feeling so id tell everyone that its kinda normal. it doesnt mean the relationship is over tho.

22nd June 2004, 03:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
Mean Girl Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Barnhill/Broughty Ferry Posts: 635	i had that niggling feeling once, finished with the guy and i reckon it was the stupidest thing i have ever done!

22nd June 2004, 09:12 PM	#13 (permalink)
Pink Lady Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Location: Kirrie Posts: 173	i have had tht feeling sumtimes, but when i see the person, i realise its better 2 be not single!

23rd June 2004, 10:49 AM	#15 (permalink)
DJisghetto Banned Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 496	I used to have this girlfriend. We went out for just over one year and seven months (i'm going to pretend i don't know the exact date. cause you'll think i'm poofy) anyway after about one month and five i started having the 'what if i was single?' inner moral debate. I'd had it before but never really paid attention. So I met this girl, she was about 10 times prettier than my girlfriend (She was actually out to meet bobsy, but his chat-up technique wasn't great that night) SO I got talking to her on msn and we met up another couple times with friends (she even came to see me rock, my girlfriend was there too. it was pretty funny.) So-one night me and my friend robbie were sitting bored on msn and she came on, so we decided to take a daunder up to her house. Except robbie's pal phoned him up so robbie decided to go off with him. So i went up to her house by myself. And we sat and chatted for a bit, then i was away to go home we started kissing on her doorstep. then the next night she came to see me rock at the balcony and we started getting off again. Next day i broke up with my girlfriend. Went out water-gunning with my pals. Then watched summerslam (elimination chamber main-event. triple h won after some ric flair interference. just so you know) then a couple of days i asked this new girl out and we've been going out ever since (7 months and 4 days...so what, i'm poofy) And i can honestly say i don't regret a thing. So yeah, moral of this story: Don't be an asshole. Do what your heart says.