relationships......distance

immensiatedmush · 25th June 2004, 10:29 PM

So, is distance a big deal in a relationship? do long distance relationships really work? I honestly dont know, I had this thing with this guy but the distance was a problem and we just ended up gettin hurt......

FashionWhore · 25th June 2004, 10:30 PM

distance is bad yeh

out of sight out of mind

a really strong couple could make it work but not long term - that is just begging for trouble.

Laura* · 25th June 2004, 10:32 PM

How far are we talking?

FashionWhore · 25th June 2004, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by strangest_angel

How far are we talking?

yeh, if u look really hard can u still c them?

Misanthropy · 25th June 2004, 10:35 PM

they can work if you want them to

immensiatedmush · 25th June 2004, 10:39 PM

Well thats the thing, how far u willing 2 make things work.......forfar....montrose?

fauna · 25th June 2004, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Misanthropy

they can work if you want them to

nods, if both concerned want the relationship to work, then it should, whatever the distance. short distance doesn't always work either!

FashionWhore · 25th June 2004, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by immensiatedmush

Well thats the thing, how far u willing 2 make things work.......forfar....montrose?

FORFAR AND MONTROSE?!!

thats not bad at all!!!!

i thought u meant sweden or something!

thats a bus/car/train away!

Laura* · 25th June 2004, 10:43 PM

But maybe theres things stopping you seeing them a lot because they live in somewhere like Forfar or Montrose? Just because its not FAR far doesnt mean you see them much... Which could make it hard on them.

FashionWhore · 25th June 2004, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by strangest_angel

But maybe theres things stopping you seeing them a lot because they live in somewhere like Forfar or Montrose? Just because its not FAR far doesnt mean you see them much... Which could make it hard on them.

get a job. get a bus pass. get a kiss.

easy peazy

Lindsay · 25th June 2004, 10:45 PM

me and my boyfriend have been 300 miles apart for 3 weeks now. i know that's not long. i get to see him in 9 days and i cannot wait. then we're apart for a month again, then another 2 days together, then another month, then he's back in glasgow.

we talk reguarly, but not every day, which is probably the best thing because it means you're excited when you hear from them, but not boring each other.

i also really really trust him (and i'm NOT a trustworthy person when i'm in a relationship at all usually) and there's no way in a million years i would cheat on him.

also i guess it helps that i know if either of us needed to, we could be with each other within 24 hours.

but without trust and that feeling of longing to be with the other person, i don't think it could work/

but this was just an extended way of saying what alex said - they can work if you want them to.

immensiatedmush · 25th June 2004, 10:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by strangest_angel

But maybe theres things stopping you seeing them a lot because they live in somewhere like Forfar or Montrose? Just because its not FAR far doesnt mean you see them much... Which could make it hard on them.

So yeah, there's work and there's only 1 day u can really see them coz u have only the bus for transport.......

Lindsay · 25th June 2004, 10:48 PM

if you really want to be with someone, even if you might fancy other people, you put them first naturally though.

immensiatedmush · 25th June 2004, 10:49 PM

And yes, it all depends on whether u r in a strong enough relationship 2 really want 2 keep it goin.....

evilheartedyou · 25th June 2004, 10:54 PM

I wouldn't start a long term relationship out of nowhere, if I'd been in a long term relationship where the other person had to move away for a while I'd try to make it work.

unless they were moving to be away from me...

25th June 2004, 10:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
immensiatedmush Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: the land of me Posts: 7	relationships......distance So, is distance a big deal in a relationship? do long distance relationships really work? I honestly dont know, I had this thing with this guy but the distance was a problem and we just ended up gettin hurt......

25th June 2004, 10:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
FashionWhore Banned Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Dundee Posts: 9,126	distance is bad yeh out of sight out of mind a really strong couple could make it work but not long term - that is just begging for trouble.

25th June 2004, 10:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
Laura* dancetotheradio Join Date: May 2003 Location: Dundee. Posts: 4,313	How far are we talking?

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Misanthropy Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Dundee Posts: 4,101	they can work if you want them to

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immensiatedmush Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: the land of me Posts: 7	Well thats the thing, how far u willing 2 make things work.......forfar....montrose?

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Laura* dancetotheradio Join Date: May 2003 Location: Dundee. Posts: 4,313	But maybe theres things stopping you seeing them a lot because they live in somewhere like Forfar or Montrose? Just because its not FAR far doesnt mean you see them much... Which could make it hard on them.

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Lindsay eighties fan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Glasgow Posts: 7,594	me and my boyfriend have been 300 miles apart for 3 weeks now. i know that's not long. i get to see him in 9 days and i cannot wait. then we're apart for a month again, then another 2 days together, then another month, then he's back in glasgow. we talk reguarly, but not every day, which is probably the best thing because it means you're excited when you hear from them, but not boring each other. i also really really trust him (and i'm NOT a trustworthy person when i'm in a relationship at all usually) and there's no way in a million years i would cheat on him. also i guess it helps that i know if either of us needed to, we could be with each other within 24 hours. but without trust and that feeling of longing to be with the other person, i don't think it could work/ but this was just an extended way of saying what alex said - they can work if you want them to.

25th June 2004, 10:48 PM	#13 (permalink)
Lindsay eighties fan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Glasgow Posts: 7,594	if you really want to be with someone, even if you might fancy other people, you put them first naturally though.

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immensiatedmush Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: the land of me Posts: 7	And yes, it all depends on whether u r in a strong enough relationship 2 really want 2 keep it goin.....

25th June 2004, 10:54 PM	#15 (permalink)
evilheartedyou Uh oh! Spaghettio! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: glasglayglo Posts: 1,187	I wouldn't start a long term relationship out of nowhere, if I'd been in a long term relationship where the other person had to move away for a while I'd try to make it work. unless they were moving to be away from me...