your downfall...

kj · 26th June 2004, 06:19 PM

Not thinking before talking.

one of my biggest downfalls is not thinking before opening my mouth. its the worst thing ever especially when you dont realise that what you say is actually hurting the other person more than you can imagine or think about. And before you know it you've lost a good friend.

I'm feeling like this at the moment. I wish i'd keep my feelings to myself or at least speak to them face to face to get these issues sorted but i always seem to resort to fucking things up and throwing rational thought out of the window, so much so that people begin to think of my negative aspects other than my positive aspects.

I'm trying to sort this out because i need to, before i start loosing friends. I fuck up and say sorry, but it happens more than it should and i wish i didnt. Sorry means more when said sparingly. I've done this to people i really care about and i know sooner or later i'm going to loose someone very special if i dont get my act together.

What are your downfalls and how do you recommend i turn my downfall into something good?

Johnny · 26th June 2004, 06:40 PM

My downfall would be laziness. I'm a lazy fuck. I quit school because of that. And the last half of this college year turned out to be shit, so I got lazy and stopped going in.

The only thing I'm not lazy with is my girlfriend, if I need to do something for her or something.

Talcum · 26th June 2004, 06:46 PM

I have a mild psychological addiction to cannabis which prevents me from fulfilling my potential in a couple of aspects of my life. I'm still doin awright though so maybe my downfall is paranoia brought on by the same thing.

SuperMike! · 26th June 2004, 06:50 PM

Um, i'd say my downfall is pretty much the same as yours kj. That and getting the wrong idea about stuff most of the time. And sleeping too much.

kj · 26th June 2004, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperMike!

Um, i'd say my downfall is pretty much the same as yours kj. That and getting the wrong idea about stuff most of the time. And sleeping too much.

i get the wrong idea most of the time and start thinking the worst all the time. i'm trying to focus on being positive instead of focusing on negative things but its hard, but at the same time i am kinda getting there.

I've begun reading books on self development and the like and i've learnt alot about myself already. i just need to put the ideas into practice and repair the damage that i've already done.

SuperMike! · 26th June 2004, 07:00 PM

I know what you mean. When things go wrong (usually after getting the wrong idea) i dwell on the negative and only make things worse, then i get destructive, never leaving the problem alone and fucking things up further. But recently i think i've grown out of that - there's a situation that i'm in at the moment where i'm trying my hardest to take the positive from it and enjoy it, accepting that things aren't going to work out how i'd ideally like them to be so i might as well compromise and keep a friend, rather than being all-or-nothing. It's hard work but worth it, though it will maybe cause other problems.

But yeah, i'm rambling. I'm no expert but i guess the harder we try not to think the worst the easier it will become.

glittery_cath · 26th June 2004, 07:11 PM

Hmm, I think my downfall is probably focusing on the negative as well. I'm not as bad as I used to be, but its hard to shake the habbits of a lifetime. Its just so destructive, but it always seems to much easier to accept the negative rather than the positive.

noonenowsmyname · 26th June 2004, 07:51 PM

mine is not going for what i want, also being a constant pesimist, too concerned about what others will think, too name a few

Bobsy · 26th June 2004, 08:03 PM

i'm a cunt!

Lindsay · 26th June 2004, 08:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by johnny

My downfall would be laziness. I'm a lazy fuck. I quit school because of that. And the last half of this college year turned out to be shit, so I got lazy and stopped going in.

The only thing I'm not lazy with is my girlfriend, if I need to do something for her or something.

i'm the exact same. i dodged a lot of uni classes this year, although not as many as last year, and as a result i've not got into honours. i didn't even NEARLY get into honours. i've kinda turned it into a good thing though - i'll have a degree from one of the best unis in the country this time next year, weeks after i turn twenty, which i would say is a fair acheivement. and then i'm going to go into the fashion industry, getting some experience and then going to college and then who knows where from there. so at least i have a plan.

but i'm least lazy with my boyfriend as well, and the exact same way with him as johnny is with his girlfriend.

i feel my job saps any extra energy out of me though. uni X 4 days and work X 2 left me with one day to myself this year, which didn't do me a lot of good.

but i think i'm getting around it now.

Fox · 26th June 2004, 08:48 PM

My downfalls... I speak my mind far too much.

Lindsay · 26th June 2004, 08:50 PM

speaking your mind isn't a downfall, i wouldn't say. biting your tounge gets you nowhere.

Johnny · 26th June 2004, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Lindsay

i feel my job saps any extra energy out of me though.

I don't even have a job, I'm too lazy. Last time I had one was when I was 16, and I got fired for not going in one day.

Bobsy · 26th June 2004, 09:02 PM

do you still have that snazzy blue fraser bowl tshirt?

26th June 2004, 06:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
kj gimp Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Scotland Posts: 14,227 Band: A band of merry men	your downfall... Not thinking before talking. one of my biggest downfalls is not thinking before opening my mouth. its the worst thing ever especially when you dont realise that what you say is actually hurting the other person more than you can imagine or think about. And before you know it you've lost a good friend. I'm feeling like this at the moment. I wish i'd keep my feelings to myself or at least speak to them face to face to get these issues sorted but i always seem to resort to fucking things up and throwing rational thought out of the window, so much so that people begin to think of my negative aspects other than my positive aspects. I'm trying to sort this out because i need to, before i start loosing friends. I fuck up and say sorry, but it happens more than it should and i wish i didnt. Sorry means more when said sparingly. I've done this to people i really care about and i know sooner or later i'm going to loose someone very special if i dont get my act together. What are your downfalls and how do you recommend i turn my downfall into something good? __________________ This community cannot survive without your continued support. galleries \|\| links directory \|\| profiles \|\| wiki Last edited by kj : 26th June 2004 at 06:22 PM.

26th June 2004, 06:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
Johnny is latin for sexy. Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Glenrothes Posts: 5,137 Band: Aces High	My downfall would be laziness. I'm a lazy fuck. I quit school because of that. And the last half of this college year turned out to be shit, so I got lazy and stopped going in. The only thing I'm not lazy with is my girlfriend, if I need to do something for her or something.

26th June 2004, 06:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
Talcum Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: wherever makes me c00l, dickhead. Posts: 1,129	I have a mild psychological addiction to cannabis which prevents me from fulfilling my potential in a couple of aspects of my life. I'm still doin awright though so maybe my downfall is paranoia brought on by the same thing.

26th June 2004, 06:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
SuperMike! Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Dundee Posts: 3,295 Band: The A Forest. Kaput.	Um, i'd say my downfall is pretty much the same as yours kj. That and getting the wrong idea about stuff most of the time. And sleeping too much.

26th June 2004, 07:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
SuperMike! Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Dundee Posts: 3,295 Band: The A Forest. Kaput.	I know what you mean. When things go wrong (usually after getting the wrong idea) i dwell on the negative and only make things worse, then i get destructive, never leaving the problem alone and fucking things up further. But recently i think i've grown out of that - there's a situation that i'm in at the moment where i'm trying my hardest to take the positive from it and enjoy it, accepting that things aren't going to work out how i'd ideally like them to be so i might as well compromise and keep a friend, rather than being all-or-nothing. It's hard work but worth it, though it will maybe cause other problems. But yeah, i'm rambling. I'm no expert but i guess the harder we try not to think the worst the easier it will become.

26th June 2004, 07:11 PM	#7 (permalink)
glittery_cath ~x_miss_caffacakes_x~ Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dundee/Surrey Posts: 674	Hmm, I think my downfall is probably focusing on the negative as well. I'm not as bad as I used to be, but its hard to shake the habbits of a lifetime. Its just so destructive, but it always seems to much easier to accept the negative rather than the positive.

26th June 2004, 07:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
noonenowsmyname Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 128	mine is not going for what i want, also being a constant pesimist, too concerned about what others will think, too name a few

26th June 2004, 08:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
Bobsy Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Glasgow Posts: 3,333 Band: Concurrence, Priveleged Girls After School Club	i'm a cunt!

26th June 2004, 08:48 PM	#11 (permalink)
Fox Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Monifieth Posts: 528	My downfalls... I speak my mind far too much.

26th June 2004, 08:50 PM	#12 (permalink)
Lindsay eighties fan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Glasgow Posts: 7,594	speaking your mind isn't a downfall, i wouldn't say. biting your tounge gets you nowhere.

26th June 2004, 09:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
Bobsy Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Glasgow Posts: 3,333 Band: Concurrence, Priveleged Girls After School Club	do you still have that snazzy blue fraser bowl tshirt?

26th June 2004, 09:25 PM	#15 (permalink)
Johnny is latin for sexy. Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Glenrothes Posts: 5,137 Band: Aces High