modern romance

xdavidx · 4th January 2005, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by the Times Magazine

In a world where serial monogamy, casual sex, and the homogenisation of the sexes have removed most of the passion from relationships, one could argue that internet dating has come to feel like the last bastion of romance

it's sad, but that's pretty much 100% accurate.

discuss

glittery_cath · 4th January 2005, 04:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by davidXdisco

it's sad, but that's pretty much 100% accurate.

discuss

Meh, I can't see how internet dating could ever really be passionate and romantic.

browneyedboy00 · 4th January 2005, 05:05 PM

You mean actually going on a date on the internet? Or meeting people on it and then falling in love?

Ge'd · 4th January 2005, 05:13 PM

How can you have a date on the internet? :s

earmuffin · 4th January 2005, 05:19 PM

I'm having one right now. we're onto the canapes

kaleidoscope · 4th January 2005, 05:21 PM

nut.

i dae think so.

unless you both had candles and roses on top of your monitor...

glittery_cath · 4th January 2005, 05:24 PM

The thing about internet dating is (assuming it's a guy and a girl), the guy is gonna say all this lovely stuff he doesn't really mean just so they can get to the norty stuff, and the girl is gonna be all naive and believe it. Much like real life really. Man, I'm getting cynical in my old age

xdavidx · 4th January 2005, 05:27 PM

instead of buying flowers and wooing each other, you simply PUT IN THE MSN/MYSPACE/CHATROOM BANTER KEN, and when you actually meet up, skip straight to the sex.

whereas outside of the interweb, you simply skip the BANTER, and go straight to the sex. thusly, internet is romantic by proxy.

xglitter-me-upx · 4th January 2005, 05:28 PM

My mum met my step dad on the internet.
They have been married 5 years now. Although he was a friend of the family in America, and she deleted all of his e-mails because she didn't know who he was until they met in real life on holiday.

MisterMarc · 4th January 2005, 05:44 PM

having sex with a disk drive is very difficult and not particularly enjoyable.

Ge'd · 4th January 2005, 05:46 PM

I've been taking the back panel of my mouse off...

Rosco the magnificent · 4th January 2005, 05:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by davidXdisco

instead of buying flowers and wooing each other, you simply PUT IN THE MSN/MYSPACE/CHATROOM BANTER KEN, and when you actually meet up, skip straight to the sex.

whereas outside of the interweb, you simply skip the BANTER, and go straight to the sex. thusly, internet is romantic by proxy.

I think that's a flawed viewpoint man. That's only for casual sex likes. For a relationship, you certaibly don't skip the banter first. Also, it lowers the chances of being found with a minger. which is important.

: : Scott : : · 4th January 2005, 06:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by davidXdisco

instead of buying flowers and wooing each other, you simply PUT IN THE MSN/MYSPACE/CHATROOM BANTER KEN, and when you actually meet up, skip straight to the sex.

whereas outside of the interweb, you simply skip the BANTER, and go straight to the sex. thusly, internet is romantic by proxy.

Okay, I might have picked up what you are saying incorrectly but it seems like you're saying that romance is dead simply because people communicate with (ie, "banter/woo") each other without direct face to face communication? If this is what you're saying I have to strongly disagree.

The internet is just another easy method of communication, much like the telephone was when it became affordable and practical as a widespread means of personal communication. The statement about "going straight to the sex"?

You're making a fairly vast generalisation there, I certainly wouldn't be comfortable in a relationship that was entirely justified by sex.

Maybe one reason that more people are having casual sex is because it's far more acceptable socially. What's to say the people that do this wouldn't have always done this throughout history if they hadn't had to adhere to the rules that you had to be romantically involved with someone before sleeping with them?

If people want to sleep with each other without the romance aspect being forced on them then that's cool, it'll probably stop loads of potentially unhappy relationships, but that doesn't mean romance is dead. It's just rarer because it's not forced on people.

Maybe you're just bitter because girls don't like you Dave.

Or maybe I totally misunderstood your post, I just got up.

browneyedboy00 · 4th January 2005, 06:25 PM

My issue is that the Internet is as REALLY flawed method of comunication if its on its own. Its so easy on instant message programmes to take people for granted, and no matter the subject of conversation, youre never going to get thye full effect looking at a screen.

4th January 2005, 05:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
browneyedboy00 Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Kettle, Fife Posts: 872	You mean actually going on a date on the internet? Or meeting people on it and then falling in love?

4th January 2005, 05:13 PM	#4 (permalink)
Ge'd obviouslyshesouttamyleag Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Leven, Fife. Posts: 4,646	How can you have a date on the internet? :s

4th January 2005, 05:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
earmuffin Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: I'm there. Posts: 1,657	I'm having one right now. we're onto the canapes

4th January 2005, 05:21 PM	#6 (permalink)
kaleidoscope Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: GLASGLOW Posts: 1,346	nut. i dae think so. unless you both had candles and roses on top of your monitor...

4th January 2005, 05:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
glittery_cath ~x_miss_caffacakes_x~ Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dundee/Surrey Posts: 674	The thing about internet dating is (assuming it's a guy and a girl), the guy is gonna say all this lovely stuff he doesn't really mean just so they can get to the norty stuff, and the girl is gonna be all naive and believe it. Much like real life really. Man, I'm getting cynical in my old age

4th January 2005, 05:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
xdavidx Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Glasgow. Posts: 6,998 Band: Spitelicker, LOLsquad.	instead of buying flowers and wooing each other, you simply PUT IN THE MSN/MYSPACE/CHATROOM BANTER KEN, and when you actually meet up, skip straight to the sex. whereas outside of the interweb, you simply skip the BANTER, and go straight to the sex. thusly, internet is romantic by proxy.

4th January 2005, 05:28 PM	#9 (permalink)
xglitter-me-upx [discothèque] Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Dundee Posts: 1,383	My mum met my step dad on the internet. They have been married 5 years now. Although he was a friend of the family in America, and she deleted all of his e-mails because she didn't know who he was until they met in real life on holiday.

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MisterMarc Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: UGS Posts: 1,052 Band: Mental Health Act 1983.	having sex with a disk drive is very difficult and not particularly enjoyable.

4th January 2005, 05:46 PM	#11 (permalink)
Ge'd obviouslyshesouttamyleag Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Leven, Fife. Posts: 4,646	I've been taking the back panel of my mouse off...

4th January 2005, 06:25 PM	#14 (permalink)
browneyedboy00 Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Kettle, Fife Posts: 872	My issue is that the Internet is as REALLY flawed method of comunication if its on its own. Its so easy on instant message programmes to take people for granted, and no matter the subject of conversation, youre never going to get thye full effect looking at a screen.